I think it's safe to say 'Neither here or there' would be the safe response. There's enough material out there to make the entire work of Shakespeare seem like a light novel if we started discussing atrocities conducted of military forces of all kinds (and their subcontractors) over the last fifty years. I just woke up, but if you want me to provide the articles they wrote in question, we can continue it in PM.
I'm a freelancer, so they're all entities, and they have their own objectives (good or bad), and they're made up of individuals. Those individuals carry out said actions.
You're going to live with the fact that most people aren't able to (or won't have the time) to tunnel down to determine the exact individuals, so it's easier to talk about the entity in question, and refer to the action said individuals belong to as being part of the entity.
It's not right or wrong, it's just how the world works, and more accurately the emotional and logical shorthands people use.
We'd live in a more accurate place if we all started tunnelling down, but that's a lot of work that could be deemed unnecessary for the purposes of say a single conversation, and in quite a few cases, it would be illegal to do so (due to the likes of secrecy law, laws covering current military operations, privacy acts and the like)
But I deal with a lot of entities when I worked in journalism (major international banks, the Vatican, militaries, governments, major corporations) so my perspective of the world is quite different than most people I speak with. Then again, if I spoke about all the fun* stuff I've seen during my years, you'd probably either want to go into a mass murdering rage, find the nearest tall building, or consider taking up terrorist activity as a national past time.
Entities have their own objectives (be it good, bad, or neutral) and they work towards them. My opinion of said entities is based of those actions. No more, no less, and the only expectation I have is your actions (from an entity to an individual) match your intentions. Or in short, if someone's pointing a loaded gun to my head and professing how much they love me, don't expect me to believe your statement.
Expressing your opinion is something that can't be taken away from you, and I would never discourage that. There are consequences for said opinion of course, but suppressing the ability to say such things is a fast way to end up in a dictatorship.
Or as I like to put it 'You are free to say what you want, and I reserve the right to base my actions on what you say. However, I will encourage you to say it, because I don't believe that we live in a society that wants another Hitler, Stalin, Pol Pot, Pinochet, Shah or any other dictator out there to be calling the shots.'
The consequence of that is we'll hear a lot of things we personally don't like, or things we know aren't a good idea. But that's okay, because the alternative is 'We only get to hear what ONE person likes, and that opinion will be backed by force' and that's dangerous, even if the said opinion sounds like a good idea at the time. The road to hell is paved with good intentions, after all.
(*fun stuff includes fraud in the hundreds of trillions of dollars against entire populations of people, mass murder, drug trades, corruption in the hundreds of millions, slavery, dirty trade deals, extortion, pedophile sex rings, excessive censorship, tyranny via social workers etc. You probably don't want me to answer the question in more detail, and no, I don't profess to know everything either. Some of my colleagues can talk about even more fun stuff than I can, because we only have so many hours in the day and there's a LOT of stuff out there.)
Threat or not, regardless of perspective or predilection. And I'll admit, my original response was rather immature and poorly thought out, lacking any serious thought behind it. Call it a knee-jerk reaction, if you will.
Now, I can't say I've been in your situation nor have I seen some of the things you've seen or experienced. That's a given. However, with that being said.
A military undeniably does things not everyone will agree with, whether it's debatable or not.
Your colleagues not being guaranteed safety from US military IN the US itself? I don't even see how that's justified, let alone why that would be even a possibility. Yes, I've personally experienced soldiers committing acts of terrorism myself, but never has it been under the name of the Army.
In regards to the Pakistan situation, I'll admit, that's inhumanly wrong, power and technology or not. And the hate for that action is entirely justifiable. Still, "the military" is an organization, not a single entity. I don't believe it to be fair to hate, distrust, disagree with, etc. towards the entirety of the military for something based on a decision made by the higher ups. Again, undeniably, the act is wrong no matter how one looks at it.
"Because they're the military" isn't any reason to respect or demand respect of "just because." I'm not arguing that people should respect them nor that they're demanding respect, just that I respect the military based on my own beliefs and experiences, and I don't agree with openly throwing out a distasteful opinion publicly, especially on such an off-topic subject, knowing that it can easily be interpreted as an offensive. As for people not trusting the American military or any military in general, I have no qualms against that. Let you, I, and them think however we see fit.